Are the busy days full of anxiety, challenges and stimuli your most finsest hours !? Are there no empty pages left in your agenda, do you have no minute to spare on your time- scale !? Is doing nothing, absolutely doing nothing not your fling !? It could be that the FOMO- addiction got a grip on you !! What !!? A Fomo_ not a nickname but ' Fear Of Missing Out '. The fear to miss something. Is it a compensation for the bad choises I have made in the early years of my life, or for the stimuli I didn 't got when needed, or for the friends I don 't have !? Who knows ! But one thing is sure, doing nothing isn 't my thing !! It gets to me, I get frustrated, a feeling of being blocked, being stuck_ marooned here, comes over me_ I got to change my hair, my face, my life!! All the time I am looking out for something new, better, faster, cheeper, higher, deeper,... On the other hand I am not immune for the pleasures and ideals of our time. I do want a happy home, a house and a car, I do spent my holidays abroad and I am so into fashion. I will bend backwards to certain standards in/ of society_ being part, taking part is important. But I wanna stay fit and healty, so I run 5 miles a day, I have 3 kids and I closely watch their education and homework and certainly I don 't wanna loose out on my social contacts_ I already get nervous when varnishing day comes in sight. Art, photography, lectures,...all of it is of interest and I don 't wanna miss a thing. Friends aren 't neglected, on the contrary I text them while driving, I interrupt one call to take a possible one of them, I check my twitter while having a romantic evening with the wife_ there just might be something more interesting or worse...one of my friends could be sick, needin' my help, or even something very bad could be happening. I would tie myself in a thousand knots to know where and actually how they are, they may be allright, they may be ill, lieing in hospital, being victims of an air disaster or a mass murderer. I just don 't know untill I check! And I check again just to make sure !!
I could take the lid off, if I wanted to, it would made me happy, satisfied. Nevertheless a more quiet life, a simpler one could be the anwser I know, all goes so fast these days. Impossible to follow up all trends, gadgets, modes, tricks and treats. In that a way I miss a great deal of what is out there. But how to choose on something that might be more fun, on a social date that might be just around the corner !? Don 't you wanna know who gets dumped, who gets f...and by whom !? Don 't you wanna know who will have a baby and who can 't the pay the mortgage !? It's nothing new of course, it was formely know as ' keeping up with the Joneses', but today it's magnified by new technology. We can have it all, but everytime we make a choise, we're turning down other options and outcomes, we leave behind people who deserve our attention, friendship, devotion, joy and love. But instead of accepting the venues, social media/ friends/ feeds/adds /tweets/digits/...make us even more aware of the things we' re missing out on. There they are the vivid, the literal_ snapshots of ways not taken!!
But aren 't we just the gabage, the filth, the dirt, the things we leave behind!? Aren 't we just the ones living in chaos, in complete darkness !? Aren 't we just the ones suffering from depressing and psychosis !? Aren 't we just the ones committing suicide !? Aren 't we just the ones who were abused, were unhappy with what we got !? And is it therefor we need others to tell us we're not !? Is it because we can 't just live alone anymore that we need updates/ applications/ aps/ tabs/ profiles/ streams/ blogs/ polls/thumbs- ups/ credits/hashtags/ haiku's/....!? To do what !? Make extentions to and for our silly mad undergraded daily lives!? Are we so afraid of missing out a moment, so nerdy that an unchecked page distract us from our occupations and duties !?How sick can you be !? On a deeper lever, how addicted are you !?
Memes can be quite destrctive and the meme- driven anxiety to be ' connected ' all the time makes self- reflextion for a great deal impossible and does little to change ideas about things. Moreover, in combination with technology_ that is still evolving, memes cultivate our need for rapid reponses, for the next status- update, for immediate attention. Memes thru' Fomo feeds on people.
Susan Blackmore could be right saying that a third replicator, the teme, is starting to permeate through our social relationships. All what we are, love, enjoy, hate, fear is uploaded into cyberspace. And we willingly provide even more information about ourselves to the Internet/ Second Life/... The teme- machine is growing, evolves and creates even more digital worlds wherein we loose ourselves. It demands to remain connected, you don 't have to be in touch with your friends in the real world anymore. The teme will make it possible that you tweet about your life actually more than you will live it......